Why do I feel the way I feel?

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10 Questions - Developed by: Eli Far - Developed on: - 311.918 taken - User Rating: 3.65 of 5.0 - 84 Votes

Some people have trouble identifying how they feel, and figuring out why they feel as they do. This quiz is designed to help you know how you came to feel as you do, and may help you identify how you can change your situation for the better. This quiz was adapted from a DBT workshop that was given at the Counseling and Career Development Center at Georgia Southern University.

  • 1
    Which physical symptoms have you been experiencing lately? Chose the answer that is most like what you have been experiencing, even if you haven't experienced all of the symptoms.
    Frowning, inactivity, moving slowly, withdrawal, talking less than usual, being monotone, giving up, moping
    Stomach pain, having a sense of dread, crying, blushing, wanting to hide, being jittery, having a sense of suffocation
    Incoherence, tightness in the body, a hot face, muscles tightening, clenched teeth, feeling the impulse to hit something
    Sweating, having the jitters, trembling, shortness of breath, muscle tension, uncomfortable stomach, feeling cold
  • 2
    Which of these actions have you been engaged in recently?
    Frowning, inactivity, moving slowly, withdrawal, talking little, monotonous voice, giving up, moodiness
    Withdrawing, hiding, avoiding someone you've hurt, slumped posture, apologizing, giving gifts, trying to fix things
    Fearful talk, shaking, crying, yelling, pleading for help, fleeing, hiding, being speechless, having a frozen stare
    Mean expressions, clenching your teeth, a red face, verbally attacking, physically attacking, cursing, complaining, being aggressive or threatening, stomping, brooding
  • 3
    Which of the following have you noticed recently?
    Focusing on one thing that has caused you to feel upset, ruminating, numbness, depersonalization
    Irritable, grouchy, blaming yourself, hopelessness, fainting, nightmares, insomnia, disturbed appetite, numbness
    Disoriented, dazed, losing control, remembering threatening times, shock
    Avoiding thoughts, shutting down, blocking emotions, impulsivity, believing you're defective, feeling alienated

  • 4
    Which of these events have happened to you recently or in the past?
    Doing someone wrong, remembering something wrong that you did, your transgression being "discovered," a private part of your life is exposed, being teased or criticized, being betrayed, failing, being rejected, having invalidated emotions
    Losing power, status, and respect; being insulted; physical pain; emotional pain; being threatened; having someone enjoyable be interrupted; not getting what you want
    Being in a new place, being alone, being in a place where bad things have happened to you or someone else
    Things turning out badly, getting what you don't want, not getting what you need or want, the death of a loved one, loss of any kind, separation from something or someone important to you
  • 5
    Have you interpreted any life situations in the following ways recently?
    Thinking that you will be separated form something important for a long time; you are worthless and not valuable; you won't get what you need; hopeless beliefs
    Thinking that someone will reject, criticize, or dislike you; that you won't get the help you need; that you will lose any help you have; losing control; losing competence; believing that you could be hurt, or even die
    Your body is too big; you are bad; you are a failure; you are silly and stupid; you are not "good enough", believing that you are a "loser"; believing that you are unlovable
    Life is unfair; things should be different; "I'm right"; judging the situation to be unfair
  • 6
    Which of the following words would you use to describe how you've been feeling?
    agitation, annoyance, envy, frustration, irritation, torment, outrage, resentment
    alienation, crushed, disappointment, displeasure, grief, hurt, hopeless, sorrow
    culpability, guilt, embarrassment, humiliation, regret, remorse, mortification
    apprehension, anxiety, distress, dread, fright, overwhelmed, panic, worry

  • 7
    Do you identify with any of these words?
    Weariness, dissatisfaction, dubiousness, skepticism, doubtfulness, apathy, boredom, dullness
    Cautiousness, reluctance, suspiciousness, caginess, wariness, confused, insecure
    Impatience, hurt, hostile, rage, hateful, critical
    Shyness, fragility, bashfulness
  • 8
    What do you think the opposite of your recent experience would be?
    Trusting, loving, intimate, thoughtful, content, relaxed, serene, thankful
    Sweet, friendly, tame, wise, patient, calm, successful, pleased, soothed,
    Proud, respected, appreciated, hopeful, important, faithful, valuable, worthwhile, intelligent, confident
    Excited, energetic, playful, creative, aware, fascinating, amused, delightful, cheerful
  • 9
    If you could do anything to express the emotion you are feeling, without having to suffer the consequences, what would it be?
    Run away, change my name, move to a different state, hire a bodyguard
    Stomp, hit, throw, beat-up, hurt someone or something, explode, break things
    Crawl into a whole and die, kill myself, cry for hours, go to sleep, eat too much or too little
    Hide, run away, avoid people, give away money and gifts, try to make up for things I've done wrong

  • 10
    Which of the following emotions do you think you have been dealing with?

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Katie Cat Lady ( 82486 )
Posted 90 days ago
So right. Said I was the sad type. I lost my cat two days ago and he's been missing ever since. If anybody lives in central Pennsylvania, he is an orange tabby named Jack and he's very timid. DO NOT approach him, just gently coax him with callings of him name and snapping your fingers. Oh jack i wish you were here!
Samantha ( 03996 )
Posted 155 days ago
Brilliant quizzes. Really great site x
Ashley ( 11574 )
Posted 369 days ago
Dear Judy,

This may not always work for me, but I completly understand your feelings. I have a little brother that has a condition called autism. When I found out I had trouble understanding how I felt about it. What I did was, to write a story about a person like me struggling to fix a problem like mine, and eventually I get so caught up in my story I find my solution and relief in the story. But just so you know your not alone and if you need any help at all I'm there. ☆Bye☆
Ashley ( 11574 )
Posted 369 days ago
I did find this quiz difficult, but for a different reason.While I answered the questions I kept thinking back to what happened between me and my bff.It happened at school.Well my friend Victoria gave a class note to me.Appearently I was the first to get it.It talked about our teacher saying we're brats.Anyway, I did write on it and passed since everyone deserved to know.And it it got filled with notes the last person to get it was my bff,Emily.So we made a new note about same thing.Anyway we got caught.But Emily got a reward and we all got mad, but later patched up.Then 1 week later she gets called to the back of the room to see the teacher.After, I ask her in a note, but she won't answer me.So I get a little agitated and put a mad face in it.And we get caught and when I get completly told off... I'm sorry.It's just too painful to tell this I'm already sobbing my eyes out now.But anyway this test is very accurate. ☆Thankyou☆
Judy ( 96057 )
Posted 370 days ago
oh my did i find this quiz difficult. I googled "how to determine what your are feeling?" and came upon this site and took the quiz.
This was such a struggle for me because I just don't seem to know what i feel most of the time and for most of my life I have struggled with knowing my true feelings at any given time. The main biggies are usually distinguishable from the usual numbness I feel such as sadness and anger and happiness. These need to be moderate to extreme in intensity so that I can make any sense of them though. Any thoughts on how I might learn to become more attuned to my feelings would be greatly appreciated.
Thank You
emily ( 35846 )
Posted 411 days ago
I just feel really guilty... I am really upset...Everyday I feel like a nobody...I am always really upset....I am always alone in the shawdows..
Rod ( 83341 )
Posted 460 days ago
Thanks. I found the outputs helpful and put things a little into perspective.
I think the 90 / 10 result was spot on, mostly separation sadness and a small amount of self questioning and self doubt which tells me that I don't overtly blame myself for the situation in fact from from it, but merely need to plot a way through it to a more stable future though one alone for a time longer it but only for a while one suspect knowing exactly where my head is now.
blargle ( 85625 )
Posted 461 days ago
Pretty much pointless quiz
Sarah ( 41634 )
Posted 484 days ago
This is not really helping,
Grace ( 90598 )
Posted 558 days ago
I find myself unable to take this quiz because there are multiple questions where I just need an "all of the above" option
Belahzael ( 97815 )
Posted 569 days ago
So than all I have to do is to avoid humans in general, how usefull.