Why do I feel the way I feel?

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Some people have trouble identifying how they feel, and figuring out why they feel as they do. This quiz is designed to help you know how you came to feel as you do, and may help you identify how you can change your situation for the better. This quiz was adapted from a DBT workshop that was given at the Counseling and Career Development Center at Georgia Southern University.

  • 1
    Which physical symptoms have you been experiencing lately? Chose the answer that is most like what you have been experiencing, even if you haven't experienced all of the symptoms.
    Incoherence, tightness in the body, a hot face, muscles tightening, clenched teeth, feeling the impulse to hit something
    Frowning, inactivity, moving slowly, withdrawal, talking less than usual, being monotone, giving up, moping
    Stomach pain, having a sense of dread, crying, blushing, wanting to hide, being jittery, having a sense of suffocation
    Sweating, having the jitters, trembling, shortness of breath, muscle tension, uncomfortable stomach, feeling cold
  • 2
    Which of these actions have you been engaged in recently?
    Mean expressions, clenching your teeth, a red face, verbally attacking, physically attacking, cursing, complaining, being aggressive or threatening, stomping, brooding
    Frowning, inactivity, moving slowly, withdrawal, talking little, monotonous voice, giving up, moodiness
    Fearful talk, shaking, crying, yelling, pleading for help, fleeing, hiding, being speechless, having a frozen stare
    Withdrawing, hiding, avoiding someone you've hurt, slumped posture, apologizing, giving gifts, trying to fix things
  • 3
    Which of the following have you noticed recently?
    Disoriented, dazed, losing control, remembering threatening times, shock
    Avoiding thoughts, shutting down, blocking emotions, impulsivity, believing you're defective, feeling alienated
    Focusing on one thing that has caused you to feel upset, ruminating, numbness, depersonalization
    Irritable, grouchy, blaming yourself, hopelessness, fainting, nightmares, insomnia, disturbed appetite, numbness
  • 4
    Which of these events have happened to you recently or in the past?
    Things turning out badly, getting what you don't want, not getting what you need or want, the death of a loved one, loss of any kind, separation from something or someone important to you
    Being in a new place, being alone, being in a place where bad things have happened to you or someone else
    Doing someone wrong, remembering something wrong that you did, your transgression being "discovered," a private part of your life is exposed, being teased or criticized, being betrayed, failing, being rejected, having invalidated emotions
    Losing power, status, and respect; being insulted; physical pain; emotional pain; being threatened; having someone enjoyable be interrupted; not getting what you want
  • 5
    Have you interpreted any life situations in the following ways recently?
    Life is unfair; things should be different; "I'm right"; judging the situation to be unfair
    Thinking that someone will reject, criticize, or dislike you; that you won't get the help you need; that you will lose any help you have; losing control; losing competence; believing that you could be hurt, or even die
    Your body is too big; you are bad; you are a failure; you are silly and stupid; you are not "good enough", believing that you are a "loser"; believing that you are unlovable
    Thinking that you will be separated form something important for a long time; you are worthless and not valuable; you won't get what you need; hopeless beliefs
  • 6
    Which of the following words would you use to describe how you've been feeling?
    agitation, annoyance, envy, frustration, irritation, torment, outrage, resentment
    apprehension, anxiety, distress, dread, fright, overwhelmed, panic, worry
    culpability, guilt, embarrassment, humiliation, regret, remorse, mortification
    alienation, crushed, disappointment, displeasure, grief, hurt, hopeless, sorrow
  • 7
    Do you identify with any of these words?
    Shyness, fragility, bashfulness
    Weariness, dissatisfaction, dubiousness, skepticism, doubtfulness, apathy, boredom, dullness
    Cautiousness, reluctance, suspiciousness, caginess, wariness, confused, insecure
    Impatience, hurt, hostile, rage, hateful, critical
  • 8
    What do you think the opposite of your recent experience would be?
    Sweet, friendly, tame, wise, patient, calm, successful, pleased, soothed,
    Trusting, loving, intimate, thoughtful, content, relaxed, serene, thankful
    Excited, energetic, playful, creative, aware, fascinating, amused, delightful, cheerful
    Proud, respected, appreciated, hopeful, important, faithful, valuable, worthwhile, intelligent, confident
  • 9
    If you could do anything to express the emotion you are feeling, without having to suffer the consequences, what would it be?
    Run away, change my name, move to a different state, hire a bodyguard
    Stomp, hit, throw, beat-up, hurt someone or something, explode, break things
    Crawl into a whole and die, kill myself, cry for hours, go to sleep, eat too much or too little
    Hide, run away, avoid people, give away money and gifts, try to make up for things I've done wrong
  • 10
    Which of the following emotions do you think you have been dealing with?
    Fear
    Sadness
    Shame
    Anger

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Impressive mind ( 74751 )
Posted 9 days ago
Why do I feel the way I feel?

For 50 % you are: All emotions are prompted either by external experiences or by internal experiences. Regardless of the source, the emotion is real, and manifests itself in the body and mind. From what you have described, it appears that you may be dealing with a great deal of sadness in your life. If you have been rejected, disliked, have discovered that you are powerless, have been with someone who has been hurting, if things have turned out badly, if you're not getting what you need, or if you've lost a loved one or a relationship, you may feel sad. Plus, if you believe that you are bad, a failure, 💗, not "good enough," a "loser," and that you are unlovable, you may feel sad. To combat sadness, it is important to engage in things that bring you pleasure, to be active, to not withdraw, and to do things that help you feel confident.
56 % of 77951 Quiz participants had this profile! Profile A

You could also get this result:
For 20 % you are: All emotions are prompted either by external experiences or by internal experiences. Regardless of the source, the emotion is real, and manifests itself in the body and mind. From what you have described, it appears that you may be dealing with a great deal of anger in your life. Anger is caused by losing power, respect, and status; being insulted, not having things turn out as you wanted; being in pain; being threatened; having something important interrupted, and not getting what you need or want. Additionally, anger may come about if you are expecting pain, if you believe you've been mistreated, if you are judging a situation, or ruminating. To alleviate anger, it is important to gently avoid the provocative situation, and to try to counteract anger with kindness. It is useful to try and put yourself in another person's position to try and understand and be empathetic to their point of view. Profile B

Or even this one:
For 10 % you are: All emotions are prompted either by external experiences or by internal experiences. Regardless of the source, the emotion is real, and manifests itself in the body and mind. From what you have described, it appears that you may be dealing with a great deal of shame in your life. The roots of this shame come from doing something wrong, from someone "telling" on you, from being made fun of, from being betrayed and/or rejected, from failing at something, or for having emotions that have not been validated. Additionally, thoughts of believing that you are bad, that part or all of your body is flawed, believing that you have failed, believing that you are 💗, judging yourself, terming yourself a "loser," and believing that you are unlovable also create feelings of shame. You may have an upset, feel dread, blush, have the jitters, or feel like you're suffocating. To alleviate shame, when it is justified, repair your transgression, avoid making the mistake again, accept the consequences, and then forgive yourself. If the shame is unjustified, repeat that which makes you feel guilty until you no longer feel guilty. Profile C

Or even this one:
For 0 % you are: All emotions are prompted either by external experiences or by internal experiences. Regardless of the source, the emotion is real, and manifests itself in the body and mind. From what you have described, it appears that you may be dealing with a great deal of fear in your life. The roots of this fear come from being in a new situation, or in a situation that is (or is like) where you or someone you know of has been hurt. Additionally, believing that you may be hurt, that you may fail, not get what you need, lose what you have, not have control, or that you may die, also feed fear. As a result, you may experience sweating, shaking, jumpiness, tension, breathlessness, dread, vomiting, etc. To alleviate fear, it is important to what you are afraid of repeatedly, until you are no longer afraid; also, engage in activities that will help you gain a sense of mastery and control. Profile D
Rachel ( 44552 )
Posted 29 days ago
Hey 'I don't want to say'

Depression is nothing to be ashamed of♥ . It would be a good idea to tell your family what you are going through so that they can help❤ . I had depression a few years ago and remember feeling that way. I'll be praying for you. Xx
nobody ( 19689 )
Posted 55 days ago
i have felt this empty feeling ever since i was little. earlier it used to be when someone left, e.g my bff or my dad when he left for work or a guest. during the time i am with themi am happy but when they leave i feel empty. due to this i have always dreadded things ending. nowadays its summer and i cant be bothered to do anyting. i become angry but i have never been good at expressing my emotions so i cry. all the time. sometimes for no reason. i am close to year 10 and im stressing i dont have the motivation to stoudy and every time i think of tests i get stressed and distract myself. i thnk its also worth mentioning that i dont have many freinds. making friends is something i have never been googd at. my bff which i talked about earlier, well we are drifting apart. we live far away but thats not the problem. i feel like she doesnt care about me. she forgot i was moving houses. i feel like nobody cares what i think so i never say what i relly feel. i only have one okayish friend at school but we are not that close and i want to get closer but she has other frineds and i dont know. but also i feel like i am isolated because the group if friends i used to be in kind of disclude me in everything. for once i wish people would ask me how i feel about things. i feel like a loner because nobody texts me and i know this is silly but i narrowed my problem down to me not talking to anybody. not opening up to people. i feel like everyone is getting futher in life like doing small things for their hobby or whatever. i dont know what im doing with my life. whats wrong with me. i feel scared trapped and alone.
sorry this is long but its not even a quater of whats wong with my life. this is the first time i am telling people my feelings.
I don't want to say ( 87206 )
Posted 63 days ago
I'm 13 years old I have been extremely depressed for 2 years and now I feel empty inside. I barely talk and I feel like I can do nothing right. I went from crying only once a week to crying every other day. I also go from barely eating at all to eating to much. Some days I eat nothing at all. I never tell anyone how I actually feel though cause I'm to scared. I acts happy around my friends and family but when I go in my room I cry for hours. I also can never sleep at night and I kinda gave up on life. I tried to kill myself but I can never go through with it. I feel like I didn't do it cause deep down I don't want to die. I just want to be happy again the way I used to be. I don't know how to get better by myself. What should I do.
Gmt ( 22507 )
Posted 70 days ago
I Am 12 Years Old.I Haven't Any Friends.Everyone Hates Me.I Am Dislike Person.I Hate This World Because I Haven't Friends.I Don't Talk Verymuch.I Am Quite.Everyone Needs Friends But Not Me.Why????????I Am So Sadly.
Hayley Crome ( 67638 )
Posted 103 days ago
I feel even sicker and I'm not even going on that boat because I get boat sick so can me and my friend Aimee is staying with Sandra and jack look in the gift shop for travel sickness tablets for being like this sick in a bin now their laughing at me please stop it I say Sandra are you alright or have you got over your stomach bug yet no says Sandra and jack love From Hayley xxxx 🚣🏼‍♀️🤢🤒
Katie Cat Lady ( 82486 )
Posted 206 days ago
So right. Said I was the sad type. I lost my cat two days ago and he's been missing ever since. If anybody lives in central Pennsylvania, he is an orange tabby named Jack and he's very timid. DO NOT approach him, just gently coax him with callings of him name and snapping your fingers. Oh jack i wish you were here!
Samantha ( 03996 )
Posted 271 days ago
Brilliant quizzes. Really great site x
Ashley ( 11574 )
Posted 485 days ago
Dear Judy,

This may not always work for me, but I completly understand your feelings. I have a little brother that has a condition called autism. When I found out I had trouble understanding how I felt about it. What I did was, to write a story about a person like me struggling to fix a problem like mine, and eventually I get so caught up in my story I find my solution and relief in the story. But just so you know your not alone and if you need any help at all I'm there. ☆Bye☆
Ashley ( 11574 )
Posted 485 days ago
I did find this quiz difficult, but for a different reason.While I answered the questions I kept thinking back to what happened between me and my bff.It happened at school.Well my friend Victoria gave a class note to me.Appearently I was the first to get it.It talked about our teacher saying we're brats.Anyway, I did write on it and passed since everyone deserved to know.And it it got filled with notes the last person to get it was my bff,Emily.So we made a new note about same thing.Anyway we got caught.But Emily got a reward and we all got mad, but later patched up.Then 1 week later she gets called to the back of the room to see the teacher.After, I ask her in a note, but she won't answer me.So I get a little agitated and put a mad face in it.And we get caught and when I get completly told off... I'm sorry.It's just too painful to tell this I'm already sobbing my eyes out now.But anyway this test is very accurate. ☆Thankyou☆
Judy ( 96057 )
Posted 486 days ago
oh my did i find this quiz difficult. I googled "how to determine what your are feeling?" and came upon this site and took the quiz.
This was such a struggle for me because I just don't seem to know what i feel most of the time and for most of my life I have struggled with knowing my true feelings at any given time. The main biggies are usually distinguishable from the usual numbness I feel such as sadness and anger and happiness. These need to be moderate to extreme in intensity so that I can make any sense of them though. Any thoughts on how I might learn to become more attuned to my feelings would be greatly appreciated.
Thank You
emily ( 35846 )
Posted 527 days ago
I just feel really guilty... I am really upset...Everyday I feel like a nobody...I am always really upset....I am always alone in the shawdows..
Rod ( 83341 )
Posted 576 days ago
Thanks. I found the outputs helpful and put things a little into perspective.
I think the 90 / 10 result was spot on, mostly separation sadness and a small amount of self questioning and self doubt which tells me that I don't overtly blame myself for the situation in fact from from it, but merely need to plot a way through it to a more stable future though one alone for a time longer it but only for a while one suspect knowing exactly where my head is now.
blargle ( 85625 )
Posted 577 days ago
Pretty much pointless quiz
Sarah ( 41634 )
Posted 600 days ago
This is not really helping,
Grace ( 90598 )
Posted 674 days ago
I find myself unable to take this quiz because there are multiple questions where I just need an "all of the above" option
Belahzael ( 97815 )
Posted 685 days ago
So than all I have to do is to avoid humans in general, how usefull.