Is It Just Dreaming?

Developed by: Sean Combs

All of us have sexual fantasies about the people in our lives. Are you just dreaming about that fantasy person, or are you ready to put thoughts into action?

Question 1: Are you currently in a monogamous relationship? Is there one and only one person in your life you're making love to?

	I have no one special at this point.
	There is one main person but I see others occasionally
	There are several people I see and make love with.
	Yes, just one, and I'm totally faithful.

Question 2: Is there someone (or several) in your life you are currently flirting with besides your partner? Do you seek them out for conversations or make efforts to see them at work, etc.?

	There is one person who comes to mind
	No one
	There are several I'm flirting with

Question 3: Is there currently someone in your life besides your partner who excites you sexually? For example, when you see them, does your breath quicken, do you feel flushed, do you find yourself becoming sexually aroused, even a little?

	There is one person
	No, no one
	There are several

Question 4: Is there someone you know from work or socially who causes you to have sexual thoughts? Have you ever wondered what it would be like to be with them or fantasized about them?

	There is a person who makes me feel this way.
	I have explicit fantasies about a person.
	I have fantasies about many people.
	No one.

Question 5: Would you ever take the step of going from sexual thoughts/fantasies about a person to actively entering a sexual relationship with them?

	If the right circumstances exist I might do it.
	I wouldn't do it because of the possible consequences.
	I have done so.
	I would never consider it.

Question 6: What is your reason for being attracted to someone outside your relationship?

	I am not now, but have been in the past.
	My partner is boring--I need more excitement/stimulation.
	The person is just more exciting than my lover.
	I am not and have never been.
	My partner doesn't meet my needs.

Question 7: What makes this person more desirable than your partner?

	He/she is more caring or interested in me.
	I don't know why, I just feel that way!
	He/she is more available than my partner.
	He/she is better looking or physically more attractive than my partner.
	No one is more desirable than my partner.

Question 8: How far have you taken your flirting?

	I haven't done anything outwardly.
	I flirt with them openly and shamelessly and make sure they know I'm available.
	I've engaged in sexual banter, joking or innuendo with this person.
	I make sure I look good whenever I think I'll see this person.
	I try to make every effort I can to talk to or see this person.

Question 9: Does the person you're flirting with know your feelings?

	They haven't given an indication.
	They know, and it is possible we'll have a relationship.
	They know and we joke around, but would never get serious.
	They know, but they don't respond.
	I know he/she doesn't.

Question 10: How is your love relationship with your current partner?

	It is boring. We are in a rut and seldom do anything different.
	It is mismatched. He/she wants things I don't and vice versa.
	I am looking for a way out.
	It is excellent. We are totally attuned. I couldn't be happier.
	It is horrible. We don't make love and fight constantly.

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