• 6 tips •
The classic tip for heartbreak: distract yourself! Of course, it's also important to let out your sadness and maybe cry for real sometimes. But no one can be sad all the time. Ring up your friends or family and do something with them. It helps to get your mind off things. Plus, that way you're around people who really appreciate you and love you for who you are.
2. Do what's good for you!
When you're really not feeling well, just allow yourself to do what really makes you happy. A little spa day by pampering yourself. Trying out a new game. Going out to eat something delicious that you totally love. Do something that helps your heart heal. Sometimes it feels like the end of the world when you're ghosted. But there are so many things that make our lives so much better. So allow yourself to do something that makes you happy!
What you can do, for example: Styling/beautifying yourself, meeting friends, going out to eat something delicious, blowing off steam by exercising or talking, pursuing your hobbies, and so much more!
3. Don't chase the person
One of the worst things you can do is chase the person! If the person has stopped responding to your messages and maybe even blocked you, ban that person from your life. Delete the person's number, unfollow the person, block the person. Whatever works for you to not get weak and not get away from the person.
Ghosting has something in common in all cases: the person wants nothing more to do with you. So let them go. If it helps you, you can also write something last and tell the person how disappointed you are. But only do that if it helps you get closure. Don't sell yourself short! Don't chase after someone who treats you like that.
4. Don't become a ghoster yourself
Even though it's easy to learn from and do what's been done to you: Please don't become a ghoster yourself! Keep it honest. If you've been through it once, you know how much it hurts. Therefore, inform the people you don't want to have anything to do with and stay true to yourself.
5. Self-reflection, but don't blame yourself!
Sometimes it is also quite good to reflect on the situation. Of course, you shouldn't let it get to you too much, but maybe you can take something away from the situation. Were there any signs before the ghosting that something was wrong? How are you feeling right now? What are your thoughts?
This is not about thinking about whether it was your fault. Don't blame yourself for the ghosting. Ghosting has nothing to do with your worth as a person, but is the other person's problem. Just think about the situation and what happened. What can I learn from it and take away for the future? How did I behave?
6. Looking forward
Of course, it's a shock to suddenly be ghosted. But don't lose sight of your own life. Focus on the coming future. What's happening soon that you're looking forward to? Think about it. Set some goals that you can achieve.
These can be very small goals like going to the gym 3 times this week. Finish a book you started. Paint a picture. Unlocking achievements in a game. Also focus on building relationships with people who really like you. For example, your close friends! Plan something together with them and leave the person who hurt you behind.
Have any other questions, experiences, thoughts or tips yourself on how to deal with ghosting? Feel free to leave a comment and let us know how you feel about it!
Would you like to see more guides on such topics? Feel free to share it!
Are you sure you want to delete this comment?