Does My Long-Distance Love Really Care? Quiz
So your long distance boyfriend/girlfriend is sending you a lot of mixed signals lately. Ugh - how disheartening!:( Try my quiz now to help you figure out what he or she is REALLY trying to tell you! I really hope it's nothing bad, but you need to make sure. Good luck!
Sometimes what bothers me is the amount of female attention that he gets but he doesn't even open the texts. He says that I am more than enough for him which is really reassuring. My maind concern is how we will meet. Funny thing is we only live 2km away, but as we're from conservative parents, both of us do not exit the house unless it's compulsory and even then someone is usually with us. Some people tell me that if the guy really wanted to meet me he would do whatever it takes to do just that which I guess it true in a way but then again, I trust him that he really is held back. He doesn't often leave the house as his parents always doubt him having a girlfriend or misbehaving due to past events that happened. Saying all of this on an online platform wont solve anything but it feels good to take the frustration out. I hope there will be a way for us to meet..
Yesterday, when it was his birthday, he told me that the letter i wrote for him was the best bday gift he has ever gotten, and that was really great. I wished him on my story on insta, but he never put it on his story along with the other wishes he had received. And 2 days ago he kept sending me screenshots of what he was talking to his other friends (on a grp about a tv show) about random jokes and pretending to be drunk and stuff like that. The thing is, i have FOMO (yes thats an actual thing) so when he kept sending me screenshots, that really affected me. and plus im a fan of the same tv show grp that he's on and he hasnt once bothered to ask if i would like to join. and once when he talked about me on that grp i asked him if these guys were there on the server (the server we met in) and he said "no" but he was obviously lying cuz in the grps profile picture i could see the name of one person whom i knew from the server.
Before he decided to confess to me, he talked about me to another girl and asked her for help about how to confess to me and now ig they're close friends and he told me today that he talked (texted) her for 3hrs yesterday and that hit hard too.
anyways im not sure what im complaining about, but it feels a bit good to let this all out.
I don't even know where to start. I honestly have been with him for almost 7 months and this summer, I want to surprise him but I don't know if his parents would accept. I mean, we are both 15, and he'll turn 16 soon, and I want to be there for him, but he still hasn't told his parents, yet. plus we live across the USA and I have no idea how we would be able to see each other.
I'm 22, nearly 23 in few months.. I met this middle aged dude through social network (with a little research with his background, maybe 45-ish something, surprised he never post a single picture anywhere, which is mysterious). But hey, he's kind of cute and immature(silly way) with me during our conversation. we talked, send pictures (how fascinating! I felt special that he say i'm the one he only sent pic to), videos, sending gifts and voice messaging. so we felt in love after a month. we barely argue (maybe a few times of feeling tension but we have a discussion on that, communication matters, right?) everything is like a dream, he may be old but you know.. feelings.. he's way beyond perfect on how to treat me(only? I'm not sure).
Woman always have this natures of doubts, questions, insecurities and curiosity, right?
but the thing is, he don't mention some things about his past.
I used different method to asked about his marital status,
(eg, "It's almost valentine's day, don't you have a partner to go with?") he just answer it in different way and telling me all the valentine's tradition in his culture. It wasn't what I was looking-expecting for, which is just weird to me why would he dodge it instead of answering it. he could just told me straight that if he's married/divorce or single, doesn't have to be ashamed of that.. [NOTE: to any middle age guy came across here, please let your current partner know everything about you or you're just a let down..])
However! He told me that he want to spend the rest of his lifetime with me and that he always loves me to the point that he is out of breathe, telling me he wanted to kiss and hug me so badly everyday, compliments me about how beautiful and sweet I am, jokes a little to light things up.. + naked with each other and "make love"
(If he's so serious about it. why he never mention about wanting to marriage or have kids.. or introduce his real friends/parents to me? ---- can I believe him telling me that he did mention about him loving me in front of his colleagues and to some friends? is it just telling them he loves or just lying to make me feel awe? I don't know!!!)
@!!!!!(((As I found out he have admiring some other woman (younger than him) in the twitter. No, he doesn't know I was checking up on him daily to his feeds. and yes, I have to admit i'm just being a very anxious creepy stalker...))) AND ALSO, I'm terribly upset he have a post of saying "taking a screenshot of *her name*'s beautiful ass" after all the things he said to me??? and i just can't mention it up because he'll find out I was checking up on him literally everywhere?? Arghh this is killing me!)))
In this matter, I questioned myself of the red flags from him.
"Am I making a big mistake?"
"Did he love me or just being nice?"
"Maybe just a temporary and entertainment love to him?"
"Is it because I'm young and he wanted to take my "first"?"
"Am I just a prize to benefit him?" (Sexually frustration perhaps?)
"Does he treat me differently(romantically) as the others when i'm offline?"
"Will he behave and act the way he is when we met?"
and so on-
Unfortunately.. All these questions in my thoughts flashed to nothing but filled with loves when I'm with him.. I just love him way too much to losing him just to question him about all the things In my mind and what I've seen.. I'm at my absolute happy place.. and I smiled to the fullest than any of the time in reality or anyone made me feel. Honestly..He's also the brightest..(or just being polite?.. Although he have offered me to be open minded and speak up whatever I think but if he's that desperately to hid his status.. there must be something hurtful going on and tried not to go through of the past again, doesn't it? even if I'll be thinking about it but I'm just scared to lose him.. unless..) I'm back to feeling horrendous when i don't talk to him.
So tell me guys, Is it a good idea to keep going or to end things as soon as it is before I hurt myself..?
P/s: Sorry for the bad english, I just need advices.. pls comment above. I'm desperately need an answer from what other people thought of this. Maybe you can help with someone who have the same issue like me.
Additional:
Q: Am I having a sugar daddy?..
A: If he have kids and also a father, He is.
If he doesn't have kids, then He isn't, consider himself as a lonely man deep down with a young and passionate empty heart.
But for me, I'm not entirely sure, Honestly.
"I don't mind spending my time and not hesitating to use my money on you" he said.
(Delicious Snacks and Beautiful handicraft is what I received, Cute.)
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