Am I Butch, Femme, Or Stem? Quiz

So you've figured out you're a lesbian.... Congratulations! Now just one question remains: Are you butch, femme, or stem? Hopefully, this quiz can help you on your journey to self-discovery.
Disclaimer: Only you can determine whether you're butch, femme, or stem. This quiz is just a guide to help you along. It will only be useful to lesbians - others should try some different quizzes! Also, it won't be 100 percent accurate for everyone. It's a test, not a human being who can talk to you and learn everything about you.

  • 1
    Growing up, were you a tomboy or a girly-girl?
    Growing up, were you a tomboy or a girly-girl?
  • 2
    Which would you prefer to wear at your wedding?
  • 3
    Which role do you prefer to play in a relationship?

  • 4
    Which of these do you prefer to wear in your normal, day-to-day life? Choose the closest.
  • 5
    Whom do you prefer to have as a partner?
  • 6
    Do you prefer to take care of your partner, or to be taken care of by your partner?

  • 7
    Do you reject traditional femininity, or do you subvert it? (In other words, do you perform femininity for other women and not men, or do you not perform it at all?)
  • 8
    Which lesbian figure do you identify with/like the most?
  • 9
    Do you enjoy traditionally masculine activities or lines of work (mechanics, construction, etc.)?
  • 10
    Finally, what do you feel you are?

Comments (76)


31 days ago
im also trans gender thats funny
50 days ago
This friggin quiz just called me femme. Get it right quiz
93 days ago
I put answers in twice because the time I got femme. Then I did it again with the same answers and go butch! Idk how but yeah. I don’t know if I can trust this quiz or not.
131 days ago
I got a stem , thou I used to think I was a fem , but am happy with my results
160 days ago
My results femme but i think i'm a stem because i want to be bucth but sometimes i also want to be femme
160 days ago
My results femme but i think i are stem because i want to be bucth but sometimes i also want to be femme
246 days ago
teallight green.
250 days ago
ay man i got femme but i feel like stem would fit me better LOL
351 days ago
I like this test its so beautiful
359 days ago
This quiz seems to be a bit inaccurate. My results said that I'm a femme, based off of my relationship preferences, but all of the other questions about my appearance and hobbies I felt pointed to being more masc.
380 days ago
I got stem which I kinda knew y’all saying y’all wanted to be butch but I wanted to be lesbian and look where I’m at now I’m a lesbian in the closet so what I’m saying is that if you want to be butch or a stem or fem you are probably a fem ,butch or stem sorry for the long comment hope this helps
409 days ago
great quiz, but slightly innacurate. you can’t really assume someone’s appearance from their personality or type (at least not in my experience). i’m pretty butch, wear my brother’s clothes more than my own and all that, but mainly due to my relationship preferences the quiz’s result was femme
427 days ago
I got stem and I'm happy because I think that does suit me best, sad thing is everyone just thinks I'm a slightly edgy straight girl 😔
I've already cane out at school and home, next step is my grandparents and extended family 😬
461 days ago
Ummm I got femme and I'm think that's wrong because I am more on the butch side more then the femme side
472 days ago
HELLO. god im dumb. I recently learned ima lesbian. yay I havent acually come out yet but... i will. someday.. ANYWAYS i got stem. So . Im wish i could be butch but if i asked my mom "HEeY! I wAnt a SupeR sHoRt hAir" she would probally say no. :(
Sorry for such a long comment. BAIIIII
498 days ago
im a lesbian and sad my mom dont want me to be lesbian she said i cant like gurlz
505 days ago
I got femme and I was not happy, I want to be butch
527 days ago
Where my lesbians at!
527 days ago
I’m a femme! Suits me! Also, to all of you who feel insecure about coming out to yourself, be true to ur self ok
534 days ago
umm the quiz isn't just useful for lesbians because 'while the butch/femme label is often used by/associated with lesbians, it is also used by other groups in the LGBTQ+ community. This includes queer men and m-spec sapphics'.