Am I Butch, Femme, Or Stem? Quiz

So you've figured out you're a lesbian ... . Congratulations! Now just one question remains: Are you butch, femme, or stem? Hopefully, this quiz can help you on your journey to self-discovery.
Disclaimer: Only you can determine whether you're butch, femme, or stem. This quiz is just a guide to help you along. It will only be useful to lesbians - others should try some different quizzes! Also, it won't be 100 percent accurate for everyone. It's a test, not a human being who can talk to you and learn everything about you.

  • 1
    Growing up, were you a tomboy or a girly-girl?
    Growing up, were you a tomboy or a girly-girl?
  • 2
    Which would you prefer to wear at your wedding?
  • 3
    Which role do you prefer to play in a relationship?

  • 4
    Which of these do you prefer to wear in your normal, day-to-day life? Choose the closest.
  • 5
    Whom do you prefer to have as a partner?
  • 6
    Do you prefer to take care of your partner, or to be taken care of by your partner?

  • 7
    Do you reject traditional femininity, or do you subvert it? (In other words, do you perform femininity for other women and not men, or do you not perform it at all?)
  • 8
    Which lesbian figure do you identify with/like the most?
  • 9
    Do you enjoy traditionally masculine activities or lines of work (mechanics, construction, etc.)?
  • 10
    Finally, what do you feel you are?

Comments (83)


1226 days ago
I thought I was stem now I be stud
1230 days ago
ight okay so me going round in mens clothing AT ALL TIMES is apparently femme according to this I am a stud I wear lots of hoodies my mum loses me in the mens section a lot and apparently I am a femme?
1238 days ago
it said i’m a femme even though i really identify as more masculine
1248 days ago
Lmao it said I'm a fem and that I prefer studs in relatioships lol which is not true. I'm definetly a stem and I only like fems
1271 days ago
Hmm it said I was a stem even though I am a Femme and I picked the most Femme answers.
1275 days ago
It said ima fem, brooooo, I’m soo far from a femme, I think ima stud/butch, bc I put I put in whatever clothes, and I have to cuz I’m not out to my family, but almost everyone knows I’m gay, and how I wish that I could where my personality, how I act and feel, masculine, like I love it, and ppl tell me I’m a femme, they can’t tell me just based off my appearance, that hurts that no one sees my real masculine side
1275 days ago
What im a stem but they say im femme? Nah im a bottom stem
1278 days ago
It said I'm femme but I'm a butch bottom who loves mostly butches...
1284 days ago
Umm it said I’m femme but I’m a stem bottom whaaaaa ohh wait heh it picked up my bottom energy that’s why heh
1304 days ago
I chose the most butch answers and still got femme... okay
1316 days ago
if u got neither ur a what a stem is? urban dictionary!!
1319 days ago
I luv femmes and I'm a butch
1325 days ago
i'm butch but i love femmes
1361 days ago
both! And true.... It depends on days
If i wannabe a tomboy or a girly girl it depends
On my mood
1365 days ago
i am a femme who like femmes! i think it's hard to find not straight girls :(
1378 days ago
I'm butch true and true.
I love this.
1410 days ago
it said i was femme but im butch.
1417 days ago
No matter what answers you put in it comes out as being femme. I think it’s bugged
1463 days ago
Is it normal for a femme to love femmes?
1476 days ago
I got femme! Thats totally right. I am the femmyest femme out there, but everyone thinks I’m bi..... ugh then men try to flirt