“Am I Lithromantic/Akoiromantic?”

Hey there, curious hearts! 💖 Get ready for a quick dive into the world of romance orientations with our snazzy quiz! 🎉 Are you more into casual connections than heart-fluttering emotions? Or perhaps you've got a unique spin on love that's all your own?
At the end, you'll unveil your romantic style – Lithromantic/Akoiromantic or not. Ready to roll?
Let's quiz!

  • 1
    Have you ever had a crush?
    Have you ever had a crush?
  • 2
    Have you ever dated before?
  • 3
    How often do you get crushes? (Note: This might vary from person to person, depending on type, expectations and age.)
    How often do you get crushes? (Note: This might vary from person to person, depending on type, expectations and age.)

  • 4
    Scenario question: Your crush just confessed that they like you. Your reaction?
  • 5
    Do you think there will be any romance in your near or distance future?
    Do you think there will be any romance in your near or distance future?
  • 6
    Another scenario: There’s this really cute person at school/work, and you find yourself attracted to them pretty quickly. What do you think?

  • 7
    How do you feel about romance?
    How do you feel about romance?
  • 8
    Which of these do you suspect that you are?
  • 9
    What is your opinion on "friends with benefits" and QPRs (queer platonic relationships)?
    What is your opinion on "friends with benefits" and QPRs (queer platonic relationships)?
  • 10
    Have you ever actually experienced a romantic moment with someone?

Comments (20)


16 days ago
Had many relationships. All ended in disaster.. now im focusing on just crushing and never letting it get serious
89 days ago
every time someone asks me out at first im like oh wow someone likes me and then immediately after i start having a panic atack and get scared. i still desire to be in a relationship and when i can imagine myself in a relationship but when it actually comes to the real thing i just get really anxious :(
104 days ago
I got 80% lithromantic/akoiromantic. Still not sure how to feel about that. I remember when I was little, I had feelings for this boy for a few years and then on the last day of school, he confessed that he "like-liked" me and wanted to go to the school dance with me. Everything I ever felt about him vanished with a snap, and all I felt was dread and fear, and I even cried when he left cause I was so overwhelmed by that (like no one ever had a crush on me before). I stopped talking to him after that and we no longer communicate today (which is relieving, to be honest).
A while later, I had feelings for my best friend for nearly 6 years. I knew she'd never like me back like that (because she was straight), and it hurt for a long time, before realising that I did NOT want to y'know, hold hands, cuddle, or even kiss. That made me hugely uncomfortable and scared and the feelings slowly died down, and she's just a friend now (though not as close as before). The NEXT experience was another best friend I made, and we shared ALL of the same interests and had a very similar sense of humour - I thought I might have developed a small crush on them. A while later, my other friends told me that this best friend had feelings for me - again, all thoughts and feelings of romance vanished.
Idk, the fact that I've only had 3 main crushes, 2 liked me back and I instantly reeled away and the other one just made me very uncomfortable at the thought of it. I still value all of them as friends (apart from the first one), but potential romance is a big no for me. I AM SO SORRY for this big rant, but I needed to vent and I have nobody to tell this to (I'm scared I'll be judged). I'm asexual but have always been confused about my romantic side (don't know whether I'm heteroromantic, aromantic or just wanna leave it unlabelled), and lithro may well be who I actually am in terms of meaning (it's the only thing that actually been completely accurate about me) but it just makes me feel upset. I think I'll stick to hetero or unlabelled for now. Unlabelled just feels more freeing and less restrictive.
I want to feel love by family and friends, and potentially a romantic love, but at the same time it makes me feel scared, anxious or uncomfortable or just straight up not want to date or have that pressure. I love being single, but the thought of growing old alone or not having someone loving me in a romantic sense (and me being unable to love them) terrifies me. That's my biggest conflict.
ANYWAY, again sorry for the venting! Thanks to anyone who does read this, would love to read your own story!
211 days ago
I do fantasize about romanticism thanks to media I like n stuff, a healthy relationship seems like a cute idea to me but I find impossible for me to actually date someone. That last bit just causes me, what I would call, repulsion.
233 days ago
I have no idea how to feel whenever somebody flirts with me or they want any thing sexual thats fake(as in a joke). I dont know if im a person who loves any romantic attention while giving it back aswell but i actuallly dont want that type of relationship. I need help figuring out what my identiy is- I actually need help figuring it out tho lol

(somebody help me figure it out i beg)
262 days ago
I don't know why im letteraly mad for that guy i'm really desperate i can't concentrate on anything anymore when i think about him this make me confused
266 days ago
Please help me I dont know what i'm going to do with this please give me advice
266 days ago
I am also having issues with my sexual orientation at this time because im lesbian and im confused if i'm neptunic and I also felt attraction to a boy something that rarely happens to me
266 days ago
I'm demisexual and my profile is grey so I think it's right
302 days ago
I'm dating someone currently, and I've liked her for a really long time! I told her I liked her over a slides presentation and she said yes. I was really excited to date her but I don't feel the "butterflies" or really "romantic" with her at all. And the things that I used to think that were amazingly cute of her before we started dating became normal/not something special to me. I love her so much but I feel questioned if we're really romantic or platonic. She isn't into those "coupley" things like sending cute messages or stuff - she's rude but in a joke way. Like calling me stupid, sorta like teasing? idk. i feel like I'm lithromantic cuz I don't like her the same after we started dating but I told her id stay with her forever so I don't wanna break that promise.
316 days ago
I feel not good with romance, but I think I am lithromantic
351 days ago
(2) And honestly, I'd rather daydream about fictional characters.. I don't know why. It just seems way safer for me just because I know fictional characters won't like me back. And that's exactly it, I'm scared of people liking me back. I do like it when guys tease me a bit, call me pretty in any *hot* way possible but when it comes to them confessing and totally meaning what they said, I fear that.
351 days ago
Being lithromantic is hard for me. There would be some times that I start daydreaming about someone because I love them that much, but I realized I had maladaptive daydreaming. I liked to daydream of them and it continues so I could satisfy myself. There was times my crush confessed to me, and it was difficult to tell them I like them too, it is true that I do, but it was just hard. I did anyways but after we broke up I had a mental breakdown and realized I never actually liked being in that relationship, and I was slowly loosing interest, too. That event helped me realize I'm one of you, lithromantics! Having these kind of mixed feelings is hard for me because I'll never understand if I'm contented with who I have, or if I'll ever be ready for a relationship at all, but I'm glad to be special
441 days ago
Literally learned about lithro/akoiro today, and I think it's the closest thing to my romantic inclinations thus far, but I don't lose interest in someone if they show signs of reciprocating. My big thing is I don't want to be in a relationship. I think if someone told me they liked me but didn't want to commit to anything, I might? Be able to handle it. I do think I have shades of aromatic, but I do get crushes and kind of wonder "what if" without wanting much more. So I guess I'm somewhere between lithro/akoiro and aro.
515 days ago
Aww, only 4% of us are aro! Come out come out wherever you are!
929 days ago
For 30% you are: Alloromantic! You experience romantic attraction in the way society “expects” you to. Basically you’re not aromantic or on the aromantic spectrum.
25% of 1549 quiz participants had this profile! Profile A

Your score wasn't clear.

You could also get this result:
For 30% you are: Greyromantic! You rarely experience romantic attraction (either infrequently or weakly, or both). You are on the aromantic spectrum! Profile B

Your score wasn't clear.

Or even this one:
For 30% you are: Lithromantic/Akoiromantic! You experience romantic attraction in a fairly allo or grey way, but the second someone reciprocates those feelings, you loose all feelings for that person. Profile C

Ok, but like, what am I...
944 days ago
First I got 50% lithro then 40% lithro then 50% grey demi. My score wasn't clear lol
971 days ago
I got 75% Akoi, hmm... do not want to be this way but ok
978 days ago
I got 40% alloromantic, 30% greyromantic,20% aromantic,10% lithromantic. Honestly I think I’m grey/demi
1043 days ago
I got grey romantic.Idk if that’s true or not but yeah...