Am I In A Toxic Friendship?

If you have to ask this question, then I am really sorry for you. Please take my quiz now to help you discover whether you are indeed in a toxic friendship - and, if so, to see if it's worth trying to repair. Good luck! I hope my quiz helps you and your friend.

  • 1
    Does your friend ever make you feel used?
    Does your friend ever make you feel used?
  • 2
    Do they treat you differently at different times, depending on who is around?
  • 3
    Do they keep your secrets?

  • 4
    Does your friend become more distant when they get a boyfriend/girlfriend or a “better offer”?
  • 5
    Do they make you feel uncomfortable, nervous or frightened?
  • 6
    Are they possessive or clingy – always jealous of your other friends and insisting on always being with you?

  • 7
    Do they make you feel you are being controlled or manipulated?
  • 8
    Do they promise things and then don’t come through?
  • 9
    Do they gossip and judge a lot, creating a negative atmosphere?
  • 10
    Does your friend only think of their own self?

  • 11
    Do they seem to compete with you all the time?
  • 12
    Are they two-faced - i.e., do they talk about people in a negative way and then act like they are best friends?
  • 13
    Have you ever caught them talking bad about you behind your back?
  • 14
    Is this friend ever mean to you?
  • 15
    Do you fight a lot?
  • 16
    Do they ever act aggressively toward you?

  • 17
    Can you be yourself when you are with them?
  • 18
    Do they make time for you?
  • 19
    Do they listen to you?

Comments (286)


15 days ago
Oh and I forgot. She never lets me say anything about my life and she’s like “cool” but I know all her problems, her friends personality’s and names, her school and so much more. She couldn’t guess any of these for me. What a 🦄 ing fake 🦄 huh?
15 days ago
Yeah I didnt really think anything was wrong but 😘 is messed up. My cousin treats my like dog 😘 and whenever she’s being a hypocrite she says sum 😘 like “I..literally never said that..?” And tries to make me feel like I’m in the wrong. One time when I hadn’t seen her in a year and I was “hanging out” with her (she was just texting a random internet dude who was way older than her the entire time) I saw she texted him “sorry little cousin won’t leave me alone” I’m less than a year younger than her. As I walked out of the room extremely hurt she proceeded to say that sHE WASNT TALKING ABOUT ME??? who in the ever loving 😘 would you be talking about??? She acts like she’s SO much better than me and says I dress like a hobo (yes she has said this MULTIPLE times). I know she’s insecure but 😘?? I’ve cried so much cuz this 😘 is such a 😘 toxic person! She has literally NEVER apologized for ANYTHING she’s done?? I have to stay in town for like a month in a few weeks but I’m so suicidal around her.
19 days ago
@athena ohhh okay then sorry about that!!! good luck with ur friends!
21 days ago
I knew they were toxic :( my “best friend” has been bullying me sort of and I havent noticed until I talked about it to my other best friend that I know I can definitely trust and my “best friend” tells everyone my secrets :/ at least I have my other best friend :)
26 days ago
great quiz! I learned today that my friendship is not toxic, thank you! I love men
33 days ago
Is this friend of mine a good friend, at some moments will come and tell me that people are talking about me and my boyfriend. She says I am under my boyfriend's spell
37 days ago
@InsertNameHere Thanks
37 days ago
@artist Athena's just my pen name so I don't think I actually know you lol. Lydia's been a great friend to me recently, it's just 2 Sophies
40 days ago
If anyone needs to vent, pls use the link below! You can let your feelings out in a safe space where everyone will be supportive of you!
41 days ago
AAAAag it says I'm in a toxic friendship but it turns out I atually also have a crush on the
44 days ago
My friend is really kind and caring and loyal. Except sometimes we get into bad arguments...... Most of the time it is stupid but I always end up hurt. She usually blocks me on WhatsApp too if we get into an argument. I always do whatever I can to prevent her from blocking me but sometimes that doesn’t help. I’m not sure what to do.
47 days ago
I hurt myself today
To see if I still feel
I focus on the pain
The only thing that's real
The needle tears a hole
The old familiar sting
Try to kill it all away
But I remember everything
What have I become?
My sweetest friend
Everyone I know goes away
In the end
And you could have it all
My empire of dirt
I will let you down
I will make you hurt
I wear this crown of thorns
Upon my liar's chair
Full of broken thoughts
I cannot repair
Beneath the stains of time
The feelings disappear
You are someone else
I'm still right here
What have I become?
My sweetest friend
Everyone I know goes away
In the end
And you could have it all
My empire of dirt
I will let you down
I will make you hurt
If I could start again
A million miles away
I would keep myself
I would find a way
54 days ago
tw/// suicide
my friend often rants to me about their thoughts of suicide and tells me a lot that they need me and are dependent on me and no one else likes them I like I do. I really want to set boundaries but I also know they need someone to talk to so I'm v conflicted. Also when I mentioned I had a crush on someone they soon became overly flirty with me and told me to not get in a relationship before them making me super uncomfortable I really love them and care for them but I'm not sure how to set boundaries in a way that won't hurt them.
- R
57 days ago
Hi everyone! If you need to vent I have made a safe space in the link below.

Please do let out all of your stress here if you need to. If anyone wants to give out advice there too, feel free
60 days ago
@Alana: Your friend is a-d-i-c-c-t-e-d(I might have spelling that wrong) if you don't want to hear it stand up for yourself.
60 days ago
To @Idk: Even tho your friends is stronger doesn't mean she mentally is. She doesn't like you because she knows you better, 1. Put a lock On Your Backpack or whatever you use 2. Bring some water yourself. You PERFECT as being someone who is imperfect. Don't change because somebody makes fun of you be who you are and who you want to be.
60 days ago
@Help lol: Dump Cassie as a friend. She does NOT deserve you as a friend, Cassie a crybaby, a jerk, very immature, and the most insecure person I have EVER seen. You don't have do be afraid to stand up, she will back off after you tell her many times you don't ant to be her friend, and that she doesn't deserve you.
60 days ago
@Athena Hi ik this late so sorry for that. Isla doesn't like you she might is just in need if friends, I have had toxic friends but Lydia is selfish, self-absorbed, icky little brat, she wants to be better at everything you do even if it isn't her interest, sry if you feel different about Lydia. Sophie is desperate for friends. She needs people to like her, so she manipulates them to do so. You need too ditch those friend delete their contacts if you have them, they have no friends for a reason. Even though Isla is getting better, don't let her in too close or else she will just end up hurting you again. In my opinion you shouldn't let them in or else they will hurt you again, don't be afraid to stand up for yourself and hold your ground, you need better friends, the friends you need will be kind, friendly, nice, sweet,caring and more.
60 days ago
So accurate and thanks for making this quiz!!!

For 47% you are: Your friendship is perfectly healthy. Everything seems to be going well, and you seem to have little to no problems. If you have one or two issues with the person, maybe just talk to them about it, and tell them how their actions make you feel. I hope all goes well, and remember this is just a recommendation. Base your own decision on how you feel about the person.
66 days ago
This is actually accurate, I’m shocked (ʘᗩʘ')