Am I In A Toxic Friendship?👤

Friendships are meant to bring joy, support, and positive experiences into our lives. However, sometimes friendships can take a negative turn and become toxic, causing harm to our emotional well-being. If you've been feeling uneasy or questioning the health of your friendship, this quiz is designed to help you identify potential signs of a toxic friendship.
Toxic friendships can manifest in various ways, and everyone's experiences may differ. Trust your intuition and be honest with yourself as you answer the following questions.
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  • 1
    Does your friend ever make you feel used?
    Does your friend ever make you feel used?
  • 2
    Do they treat you differently at different times, depending on who is around?
  • 3
    Do they keep your secrets?

  • 4
    Does your friend become more distant when they get a boyfriend/girlfriend or a “better offer”?
    Does your friend become more distant when they get a boyfriend/girlfriend or a “better offer”?
  • 5
    Do they make you feel uncomfortable, nervous or frightened?
  • 6
    Are they possessive or clingy – always jealous of your other friends and insisting on always being with you?

  • 7
    Do they make you feel you are being controlled or manipulated?
  • 8
    Do they promise things and then don’t come through?
    Do they promise things and then don’t come through?
  • 9
    Do they gossip and judge a lot, creating a negative atmosphere?
  • 10
    Does your friend only think of their own self?

  • 11
    Do they seem to compete with you all the time?
  • 12
    Are they two-faced - i.e., do they talk about people in a negative way and then act like they are best friends?
    Are they two-faced - i.e., do they talk about people in a negative way and then act like they are best friends?
  • 13
    Have you ever caught them talking bad about you behind your back?
  • 14
    Is this friend ever mean to you?
  • 15
    Do you fight a lot?
  • 16
    Do they ever act aggressively toward you?
    Do they ever act aggressively toward you?

  • 17
    Can you be yourself when you are with them?
  • 18
    Do they make time for you?
  • 19
    Do they listen to you?

Comments (386)


715 days ago
My friend literally texted me to say he doesn’t want to be friends anymore .. but he’s the toxic one. I realized he has misogynistic and narcissistic tendencies. We got in to petty argument the day (friends bump heads every now and then over will stuff this was one of those arguments) before he texted me and the next day BOOM we are no longer friends. This is someone I considered a close friend, it hurts because i feel like he never cared in the first place. I’m now in my head wondering if he even considered me his friend at all. It’s a shame really. If he needed space, he could’ve just suggested that but, it is what it is. If it’s what will make him feel better then so be it. I won’t cross the boundary in disrespecting his wishes.
721 days ago
my friends always choose eachother over me, and then always send me stuff of them together, and rarely hang out with me. and only talk about themselves and other people they know that I don't. and they are already best friends and one went " she is ok" about her best friend and that makes me wonder what she says about me. if she say stuff like that about her bestie then she would totally say it about me
724 days ago
My friends aren't really that mean and I can tell if someone is faking and acting like my friend and I know that my friends aren't faking to be my friend and we have a strong friendship and they do a lot of things for you and they are really good friends to me and I think that our friendship would last very long
739 days ago
My friend always will pick on things he doesn’t like about my other friends that aren’t part of his friend group to isolate me, and I can feel uncomfortable around him. I don’t know what to do.
742 days ago
It feels like when people are around she kinda just pretends she don't know me but when we're by ourselves she's my bestest buddy in the whole wide world. I don't understand it. I used to have feelings for her but now I kinda just... don't feel that way anymore...
762 days ago
On a sleepover and woke up at 4:30 am because she was blasting music at full volume (on her headphones… but it was very much audible). Now it’s 8:10 and I’m doubting whether or not we should be spending so much time together.

For the most part, she is a very good friend. She listens, she cares, she’s funny, she’s positive and makes time for us to hang out or text frequently enough. I even feel guilty taking this test because chances are, I’m the toxic friend.

Regardless… she’s a very self confident person and likes to talk about her achievements and good looks and so on so forth. Conversely, I’m very self conscious and I still believe most things I’ve achieved were due to luck. I also don’t have much faith in my skills or looks either.

This results in me being self conscious which is my own fault. But oftentimes she’ll criticise me in how I do things or what I think. She’s very comfortable arguing with me about anything and everything but whenever she decides to end it, it’s over. I’ve never seen her admit to being in the wrong, and even when I’ve proved it to her she’ll pretend like it doesn’t matter or exist.

Even now I’m sitting here fully aware she’s wide awake on her phone but I’m downstairs eating cereal. Her stubbornness not to talk to me is impressive, as she’s a very sociable person. Right now she only talks when spoken to. The weird thing is I don’t think I’ve done anything to her that would warrant this behaviour. The worst I’ve done is try to tickle her and she’s not even ticklish lmao.

Am I creating a narrative where I’m not in the wrong because I can’t see it?

Oftentimes after we talk I feel useless, lesser than her, and incredibly dull and unintelligent. I know if I talked to her about this she would ask “why?” And I wouldn’t even be able to give an answer.

So, I’m going to leave this here. Schools starting tomorrow anyway, so I won’t see her for ages. Even though today was supposed to be the “finale.” Maybe it was the “finale” of our friendship.
769 days ago
My friend sees me or calls me only when she wants to tell me about herself and her issues.
When I Call her back to say sorry I couldn’t answer the phone, she doesn’t answer.
She’s not really listening when I talk to her and when I do it’s a shorter time than her.
She seems very self centred and rude.
Sometimes it’s hard to know people when you don’t see them often. Anyway I’ve never been her priority,
She just call when her other friends don’t want to listen to her stories.
I have put some boundaries with days and time to avoid those discussions.
771 days ago
She was a narcissistic
785 days ago
On and off friends for years because she was verbally and physically abusive. So happy I finally cut ties.
795 days ago
she was toxic.ill just dump her lol
801 days ago
Welp I’ve lost another one
804 days ago
Diane, i realised that it’s just up to you, I confessed to you and you decided to stay in “good terms” not friends...
808 days ago
Idk why I'm here we haven't talked in a year and she abandoned me when I was hospitalized three times last summer
809 days ago
My friendshipe is perfectly healhy 63% but I agree, Mara. I think it should be more than 63%
815 days ago
And I got 32% but to me it seems like at least 45%.
815 days ago
This is going to be short cuz I hate my mom and I can't really talk bad about her but I don't know what my dad sees in her. She is mostly just really cold, I try to like her but it is hard too. She is cold and ruthless to my dad a little bit too and when she is nice to me she just wants something or is manipulating me. Plz help me, Mara.
816 days ago
i completly love him but he doesn't care at all about me, always making jokes and being mean to me, im always wrong and everything i say is stupid, for a good while spending time with him was my favotite part of the day, untill i dissagree or say something not right, i tried being more cold like him but i just couldn't control my emotions, i was willing to solve those misunderstoods but i think he wasn't, it's harder when you only have one friend, i know that im the wrong one but i really wish he could change but it's not an option, guess i1ll just leave, i still love you
821 days ago
Yeah ik im toxic bye besties
829 days ago
great quiz
836 days ago
my bff she is always like i hate this girl and plans sleepover in front of me the next day.. when ever im trying to talk she will just zone out wait a few seconds and then go on about her stuff. she knows i cant come to sleepovers because of my moms job i cant interact with people.(for covid ) and she will plan them infront of me and just ignore me the whole intire day