Am I Butch, Femme, Or Stem?

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So you've figured out you're a lesbian.... Congratulations! Now just one question remains: Are you butch, femme, or stem? Hopefully, this quiz can help you on your journey to self-discovery.
Disclaimer: Only you can determine whether you're butch, femme, or stem. This quiz is just a guide to help you along. It will only be useful to lesbians - others should try some different quizzes! Also, it won't be 100 percent accurate for everyone. It's a test, not a human being who can talk to you and learn everything about you.

  • 1
    Growing up, were you a tomboy or a girly-girl?
    Growing up, were you a tomboy or a girly-girl?
  • 2
    Which would you prefer to wear at your wedding?
  • 3
    Which role do you prefer to play in a relationship?

  • 4
    Which of these do you prefer to wear in your normal, day-to-day life? Choose the closest.
  • 5
    Whom do you prefer to have as a partner?
  • 6
    Do you prefer to take care of your partner, or to be taken care of by your partner?

  • 7
    Do you reject traditional femininity, or do you subvert it? (In other words, do you perform femininity for other women and not men, or do you not perform it at all?)
  • 8
    Which lesbian figure do you identify with/like the most?
  • 9
    Do you enjoy traditionally masculine activities or lines of work (mechanics, construction, etc.)?
  • 10
    Finally, what do you feel you are?

Comments (42)


4 days ago
Well I am more tomboy but I am more submissive soo... 💗 AM I????
8 days ago
*laughs in stem*
10 days ago
Who else can’t figure out if their a femme or stem so their just gonna say their both
10 days ago
And I'm laying here on my bed, basketball shorts, sports t-shirt, short hair and apparently I'm a femme
11 days ago
I am NOT femme...
seriously ppl i am mad-
13 days ago
im both and neither. i wear sweats and love volleyball and softball. i hate wearing makeup, i dislike pink, and i only wear dresses when its too hot for anything else, when i feel like it or when i have too. but i also love earings, fashion and going to the mall.

so my result soUNds aBoUT rIGht
15 days ago
But i'm not a femme-
15 days ago
lol I don't think this is very accurate. I got femme and I'm definitely not
16 days ago
I got femme, yet i dress like a dude....
19 days ago
Guys femme means bottom, I think. I don’t know Im 11 and I’m pretty sure I’m a bottom and all my bottom friends are femmes
21 days ago
Uhhh I got femme, I probably am a stem 🙃
24 days ago
how the fracker did i get femme-
25 days ago
im femme but i hate dresses and stuff-
25 days ago
@Brooke Im a bottom stem too!
26 days ago
I think this test is wrong.I can’t be a femme.I hate skirts.I always wear shorts,jeans,anything but girly things.This test didn’t help.-.
28 days ago
I think I am a femme but honestly I hate dresses or skirts lmao I would only wear a dress to my wedding and that’s it
37 days ago
I’m a masculine femme, but I’m not stem. 🏳️‍🌈
40 days ago
I feel like I had to be 1 point off from a stem cause i chose butch and stem options the entire quiz maybe the lesbian figure threw me off cause I did not know any of those women
43 days ago
there is NO way I am a femme im over here wearing sweatshirts, shorts, jeans, and anything else that isnt feminine. I HATE wearing dresses, and honestly I might be a stem, but idk. This test didnt help.
43 days ago
I thought I was stem now I be stud