Am I In A Toxic Friendship?

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This is a quiz to help you discover whether you are in a toxic friendship - and, if so, to see if it's worth trying to repair. Good luck! I hope my quiz helps you and your friend!

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    Does your friend ever make you feel used?
    Does your friend ever make you feel used?
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    Do they treat you differently at different times, depending on who is around?
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    Do they keep your secrets?
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    Does your friend become more distant when they get a boyfriend/girlfriend or a “better offer”?
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    Do they make you feel uncomfortable, nervous or frightened?
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    Are they possessive or clingy – always jealous of your other friends and insisting on always being with you?
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    Do they make you feel you are being controlled or manipulated?
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    Do they promise things and then don’t come through?
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    Do they gossip and judge a lot, creating a negative atmosphere?
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    Does your friend only think of their own self?
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    Do they seem to compete with you all the time?
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    Are they two-faced - i.e., do they talk about people in a negative way and then act like they are best friends?
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    Have you ever caught them talking bad about you behind your back?
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    Is this friend ever mean to you?
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    Do you fight a lot?
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    Do they ever act aggressively toward you?
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    Can you be yourself when you are with them?
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    Do they make time for you?
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    Do they listen to you?

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3 days ago
There is this girl have considered my bff for about 3 years now and sense then she barley talks to me and she hangs on me when I want to talk to my brother who is her crush.She hates all my other friends and when I tell her I love my bff *We will call her by her middle name*Brooke That I have been friends with sense I am 3 years old she talks it personal and trys to stay away from me to make me feel bad for her.I hate her.I want to end the friendship immediately if I can.Id be so happy cause when I tell this girl who I like*We will call him by his last name*Wilson When I told her I like Wilson she walked right to him and told him I had to get away so I sped walk to my classroom and told my teacher about the it.She recommended this for me and I think im going to end this TOxic relationship tomorrow.Enter here your text you want to format
19 days ago
I have a friend that I consider to be my best friend and she can be nice, but she makes me feel so tired. It's hard for me to spend the night with her because she irritates me. Sometimes I feel like I'm the toxic person and I try to better myself just because she bothers me so much and I can't stand to be around her for too long. She intentionally tries to annoy me to the point of anger and hating myself, She's very condescending and acts like a know-it-all. She makes me feel bad for hanging out with her brother (who is a good friend of mine and was my boyfriend at the time) even though it was like 3 years ago when I dated him and I was really happy with the relationship and she still drags me down for it and then she says that she would never abandon me for a boy, even though she kinda already has. Not in the same way, but her boyfriend is very christian and "perfect" and so she kind of puts that on me and tells me that I'm not morally good. She tells me that I can get jealous, which is true. I didn't really like her boyfriend at first, but it was mainly because he just made a bad first impression and just isn't the kind of person I'd usually hang out with but when I actually do get to hang out with him, he's actually a nice and funny guy, even if he does criticize me for saying crap, dang, shoot, and all that since he was raised to say none of those things. Which is fine, I don't have a problem with that. But she says that I didn't like him at first glance because I was "jealous" that she had a boyfriend while I was single and didn't have someone that loved me like he did. And yeah, maybe she's right that I'm a little jealous of their relationship, but that's not why it took my a couple days to actually like him. It was just a bad first impression. Anyway, I hate talking about her like this but I really needed to get this off my chest. She just makes me feel like a bad person and is the possible cause of my suicidal thoughts about a year ago (I'm doing better as I realize the situation I'm in and that I should try to change it before resorting to that sort of thing) but I'm also not sure if I'm over-analyzing this. Do I need to break off the friendship? Do I need to talk to her about it? How am I supposed to approach her?
25 days ago
I may not have many friends, in fact I only have one, but I feel like I hit the jackpot when it comes to friends. My best friend is amazing! However, I have had bad friendships in the past and all I can say about them is that if you're dealing with a toxic friendship, talk to them, and if the behaviour continues, STOP TALKING TO THEM. You'll be better off without them.
38 days ago
Took this test with a friend of mine in mind. He's been my friend for about 5 years but he's always judging me and I feel like I'm walking on eggshells around him. This test said talk to him but I don't know that I can be bothered. We live 100+ miles apart so I hardly see him anyway, plus he uses me for entertainment when he's bored. Better just to let go I think.
43 days ago
my friend is SO mean to me! She talks behind my back, saying things like “crybaby,I hate her, why are we even friends with her” and heaps more to my friend group behind my back. She has both physically AND mentally hurt me, and when she gets in trouble because she did the wrong thing to me, she cries in front of the teacher, then gives me the dirtiest looks after!She has given me severe anxiety and depression
54 days ago
My friend Is constantly shouting at me and then blaming me for the argument. She gets jelous even if i say hi to someone else what shall I do?
57 days ago
I have a "best friend". We used to study together last year, but this year we graduated, and barely see each other. We mostly just text each other. But things aren't the same anymore. I sometimes feel like, she doesn't care about me as much as I care about her, and it hurts. I just feel detached and I don't know what to do anymore. She's going through depression, and I don't want to make it worse by telling her that I feel like she's not being a good enough friend etc etc. Enter here your text you want to formatEnter here your text you want to format
59 days ago
I left my friend today because I am sick of her being so stupid and mean. She went with her bf instead of going to Denmark with me, a trip we talked about for two years. She told me that she want to be with him instead yesterday, and we are leaving tomorrow... sry about bad english. She talked bad about me to everyone...
65 days ago
Star.... I think ur doing the right thing but have u tried to tell them about how they is acting and that you don't like it?
65 days ago
ik I'm not in a toxic relationship but if I was I would tell someone so if u are I beg.. just tell someone... it will help, don't be their friend, do what makes you happy
72 days ago
Btw star you should tell him that u wanna b his friend and cousin but it’s hard bc he’s been mean lately and that if he doesn’t want the same then u should respect that
72 days ago
My friend has always been jealous of me she is always trying to end my friendships. If I’m friends with a guy, she’ll tell them that I like them more than a friend. If my friends a girl she spreads untrue rumors about them then comes back to them telling them it was me that spread the rumors. She claims she does it bc she can’t get any friends that like her. She’s also worried about me doing the same thing back to her even know she knows I would never do that
75 days ago
I need help me and my cousin have been friends since we were babies, and about 1-2 years ago started becoming best friends and always being open with each other and what not. But hes been turning VERY SINGLE conversation on him and becoming jealous of me and everything I do. Such as go to a theme park, he will sound all sad and completly and would try to one up me. He would always talk down to me and act like he knew what he was doing all the time, AND I'M OLDER. We would play videos on the weekend, and if I would die he would whine and complain like a little baby. So I took matters into my own hands. I am not going to talk to him until I see him at our family reunion coming up, and once I see him I am going to confront him. I might either not talk to him only if I see him or talk to him less frequently cause I used to talk to him everyday. But I really need you guy's thoughts on this whole situation because I'm lost and I really don't want my immediet family to know. Thx a bunch.
75 days ago
I'm not in a toxic friendship, but I do need advice on ending a friendship.
I've been friends with Connor since we were 5, and we're 13 now, but lately I just feel like he's annoying and that I don't want to be his friend anymore. I want to break off our friendship, but I don't know how. I also don't want to hurt his feelings, bcuz our mums are friends, but I just don't want to be friends with him anymore.
80 days ago
my old friendship group would always gossip and make me anxious. they all started hanging out without me regularly so i left the group with no explanation and found better people. but i see them all the time at school and it makes it so much harder to let go
87 days ago
@randomx and @Your Name:
I don't think that is a friend. You should talk to her about it. If she is dismissive about it, and says something along the lines of "You're too sensitive" or "It's just a joke" then THAT is not a good friend. If you have a counselor or therapist, that should be a second idea. Talk to a teacher or parent first.

@A scared girl...

How did she make you feel insecure? NO FRIENDS WHATSOEVER MAKE YOU FEEL BAD. Talk to a counselor or teacher. Talk to your parents. Do you have any other friends? Hang out with them more, if they give you a better time than her. There's my advice, I need to do homework lol.

Have a good morning/afternoon/evening/night!
91 days ago
For 47% you are: Your friendship is pretty healthy. It's good most of the time, and things seem to be going pretty well. If there are one or two issues with this person you feel need to be addressed, let them know. But for the most part, everything seems pretty good. I hope all goes well, and remember this is just a recommendation. Base your own decision on how you feel about the person.
95 days ago
my "bff" uses me ALWAYS so she can get closer to my other friends bc she's a loser. she always guilt trips me if i din't listen to her. and she is trying si much to become like me (she likes every song i like/movies and she even has crush on the same people as me :( )
what can i do?
i can't just unfriend her
96 days ago
I have friends, but it seems they’re so distant and have others around. Most of them are annoyed by me, which I guess is justified. I tease and stuff, but nothing physical or extreme.
97 days ago
Do I was in a friendship and she mad me feel really insecure about myself and I kept thinking I wasn%u2019t good enough for her but also at time she was really funny and cool. She is also a really popular person so if I stop being friends with her then I%u2019ll be seen as the %u201Cbad guy%u201D and I%u2019m scared because i stopped being friends with her last Friday and now she told everyone that i was a %u201Cfake friend%u201D. Should I try to fix things or should I leave it alone